Almost every girl, more or less, shares the same dream. The dream to find the man of her dreams. As we evolve from kids to teenagers, the dream starts, and as we further evolve from teenagers to women, it takes form. There are qualities we want in the dream man, specific to their nature, maybe even appearance. And the minute we find a guy with even one of these qualities, the next days are a persistent quest to find out, if he has the rest.
But somehow, if you are a woman and have ever been in love, you will realise that when you do fall in love, how little these dream traits, these specifications matter. If you fall in love with a man who meets all the criteria of your dream man, you have hit the jackpot and you are probably one in a million. But then again, even if you are that lucky person, being in love makes you realise that it isn’t those traits that make you fall in love with that person at all.
The only thing that does make two people fall in love is the time they spend together. Yes, there is love at first sight, and so forth, but somehow, I have never seen a relationship that has lasted for long built solely on such a factor in real life. It is the small things you share that make you fall in love. A small smile over a stupid joke that only you two understand, the patience and understanding when you listen to everything the other has to say just because it is important enough for him/her to share with you, the moment when you both appreciate that same, small thing and your heart doubles with joy because you agreed on something similar.
It is their company that you enjoy. You may end up doing something that you could never imagine yourself doing in your entire life, but you enjoy it, just because you are with the person you love. It is the simple fact that you always have some topic of conversation when you are alone, that matters more than anything else. For at the end of the day, that is what sustains a relationship till the end. That is what helps you to grow old with a person.
His muscular body will eventually wither, so will his singer’s voice. There may be a time when he is not as rich as you would want him to be. You may want a man who reads a lot because you read a lot, but there may be a time when you may be unable to read anymore, let alone discuss books with him. It is at these times when all you need to sustain the relationship is the other person’s company. The comfort of knowing that even if you do not have anything else, you have that man who you can talk to about anything, and enjoy every bit of it is what keeps life going.